The Infertile Mind

A little thank you to the universe....

Not long ago I put out a little letter to the universe requesting a new fun friend and I believe the universe responded in kind.

I sent a last minute Saturday lunch invite to an old co-worker and friend I hadn't seen in quite some time.  It worked out and we ended up having a very personal conversation about life, marriage and more.  The next day she sent me these thoughts:

"As always, good times - but I think I can say more than that - life giving times. Thank you for enriching my life through your friendship, with your words of wisdom, and your example of a woman who is a doer of good things - not just a talker about great ideas.  I appreciate your insight into my life and have already implemented some of your "strategies for success."  I love you a lot.  Keep up the good work!"  (And yes, I absolutely got choked up reading that as she's really not the most outwardly expressive or emotional friend.)

Then a long overdue lunch with one of my favorite infertiles, Lu from Fertility Foibles, also came to pass this week.  It was a phenomenal time and we vowed to meet again next time at a park and during hours outside of our busy professional lives.  More soul food from another good friend.

And a surprise entry into the friend fold as I had a very long phone conversation with Lisa from the outstanding blog Life Without Baby on Friday night.  It was so refreshing to talk openly with another woman who is no longer pursuing treatment or bringing a baby home, yet is also a big advocate in helping all infertiles on their journey.  I'm already looking forward to our next conversation.

Lastly to round out my gratitude, I have a lunch date in October with my original Resolve support group leader, Lisa, who is just a gem of a lady.  Even though we only met once or twice in person and she has two beautiful young girls, she always take time out of her life to check in on me.  It's really a lovely gesture and I look forward to a little face time with her.

So today, Ms. Universe, thank you.  You rocked my world.

Dear Universe....could you send me a best fun friend?

I miss having a best friend.  Right around the time of my second miscarriage and soon after when my life went to hell, I also lost one of my best friends in the aftermath.  She was marrying a guy I hated and couldn't hide that fact plus my life was coming apart at the seams and she wasn't there for me, either.  She's had one baby and is now pregnant with another and I haven't seen her in years, even though I offered to come this summer.  I can't really blame her for blowing me off about it, we're just not the girls we once were.

But I think what I miss most about her is that she was one person who knew how to get me to have fun, relax, be silly and enjoy the lighter side of life.  I really miss that.  So, today, I'm sending a little letter to the Universe requesting a new fun friend.  I was already denied me the baby but I think it's not too much to ask for this so here goes:

Dear Universe,

I am in immediate need of a fun friend who reminds me not to take life so damn seriously all the time.  Who knows how to help me pick out clothes and make-up and tap into the more feminine and softer side of myself.  She should have a slightly warped sense of humor, like to eat good food and generally have silly conversations on the phone about our day.  If she also happens to have an unnatural love for Wonder Woman, too, then she might just the gal for me.  One last thing, please have her live in the Indy area so I can actually do things and go places with her.  I promise to take good care of her and make sure she feels loved and appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Love,

Lily - The Infertile Mind